People and their (our) problems (with them)

Something I’ve realized is, you cannot change people. You cannot force them to grow, the same way you cannot hold them back when they do.

Constantly telling a woman who isn’t ready to chase her dreams that she should be is the same as reprimanding an independent woman for grinding in the office everyday

Asking a friend who cannot read the room or register your emotions to be there for you is the same as telling a deep friend to keep it light.

Telling a fun parent to be harder on their child is the same as telling an overprotective one to let go more.

And yet, we continue to keep asking a boutique to sell electronics, thinking that if we ask enough times, they will. But the question is, would you change yourself if different people kept asking you to?
Would you stop making those jokes everywhere if people in a certain room kept telling you to stop, or would you just go to another room where those jokes were actually appreciated?

Asking someone to change or grow is as easy as expecting a coconut tree to shower apples, maybe some day it will, once the seed has been planted near it and it’s begun growing. But would you wait that long? Even if that seed might never come at all.

Or would you move to an actual coconut tree or plant your own?

People are not meant to be changed, they’re meant to be accepted, not despite but regardless, of their flaws, or let go of.